I have a dog with seperation anxiety and let me tell you it isn't easy and they will never fully get over it. Just like humans dogs can have emotional scarring. So what we must do is work with the dog and not against her. Realize why she is acting this way, which you already do. and take the steps to help get her out of the anxieity and behavor as much as she can.

You have to change her whole outlook. I'm guessing she prefers females because she was hurt by a male. So much work needs to be done. It's not really expensive, it's time consuming, so you will have to put the time in, both you and your husband and consult a vet from time to time to have check ups on her behavior and metal health.

We can't change her past so to be a very positive force in the present and future. It's uncomfortable at first but your husband needs to keep getting involved with her. Keep the experience as positive as possible.

Since she has taken a liking to you, you will need to be the main motivator, and the main disipliner. If she acts out it is you that has to disapline. Try using a deeper tone to your voice and when praising her use a very high pitched tone. Allow your husband to become a friend. Trust doesn't come easy but keep working on it. She's still a very young dog so try and change everything that might remind her of something negative.

She needs a den that is feels safe for her so get rid of the dog run, move her position if she is enclosed while you are not at the house. Try and find some comfort for her.

Take her for walks in new areas and build up her self esteem. I know it sounds silly because she's a dog, but dogs need purpose and routine in their life, if they don't have that they get anxiesious and stressed out. Walk her every day in the mornings, or every day when you get home from work. Give her positive experiences but yet let her know if she is doing something wrong.

Its going to take a while but the rewards for you and her when it starts working is great that it is worth it to stick it out.

Separation anxiety is not the same thing as a bored, lonely dog. Dogs with separation anxiety do damage to themselves and their behavior is particularly frantic.

With that said, I hope she is spending most of her time in the house, with family. There are some wonderful techniques for helping her to love your husband. Turn him into a Pez machine. In other words, he does not interact with the dog without a pocket full of yummy treats. At first, he can just hand her small treats and let her approach and show interest in him. Later on, when she is more comfortable, he can interact more with her. Food is the universal language and treats, along with gentle handling should do the trick. When she realizes that your husband will always have treats to give her she will start thinking about that instead of being fearful.

I would encourage you to take her to dog training classes as this can really help with a dog's self confidence. In addition, a good trainer and help you with your dog's attitude towards other dogs. interview trainers before you hire them to make sure they are equipped to help you with your dog's behavior issues.

As far as her run, I would purchase some interactive toys like a Buster Cube. The Buster Cube is a hard plastic cube that can be filled with treats and then set to the frequency of distribution. As the dog rolls the cube around, a treat falls out every once in a while. These type toys can engage dogs for hours and make their surroundings more enjoyable.

Good luck

-dogpro